We had someone visit and said that Love, Honesty and Respect are three great ingredients to hold a marriage together can I say that this is so true. The dictionary describes these words as. 

Love: Is strong emotional feeling of affection for someone or something.

 

One of the hardest things for me is to see love shown to someone else by Mrs Blog. She loves everyone and has a beautiful nature but I get a bit jealous when someone seems to be attracted by that. She is attracted by the writings of a certain person on the stream and I have got to be honest here and say that I am very jealous which sounds crazy but true. Love is a strong emotional feeling of affection for someone or something I have got to get it into my thick head that something could be this person’s writings. We can sometimes lock that love away.

Honesty: Is the quality of being truthful and trustworthy.

 

We sometimes lose some of these qualities truthful it's so easy to bend the truth a bit so you don’t hurt or offend but where does it stop do the bends become bigger do we start to tippy toe around being totally truthful. Do white lies become so white that they don’t seem to be lies any more? One of my staff lies about every thing it is so annoying and so obvious but I am convinced that he doesn't realize that he is lying and to believe that this all started with a white lie. Don't for one minute think I am accusing Mrs Blog of lying I am just stating how destructive lies can be.

 

Respect: You have a good opinion of someone's character or ideas.

 

We all respect one another’s character that’s fairly easy but to accept and respect their ideas or thought’s is sometimes a challenge. I have mentioned before that Mrs Blog has a wild imagination and sometimes very hard to comprehend. Her dreams and thought’s are quiet challenging and mind provoking. They are full of passion and love (not sexual) and are going on in her head all the time AMAZING. Why did I just ramble on about that? ahhh that’s right respecting her ideas and thought’s that’s what I gotta do. We have to give them freedom in their own world.

 

 

I’m going to bed now because this is not making sense any more sorry!!!!

 

~~~~~~Mr Blog

Yes Mr Blog is doing rather well considering the circumstances; very well indeed.

 

We were married a little over 25 years ago, I was 18 and Mr Blog was 20. Just under one month later, we brought home our first beautiful son. It must be strange for a man/boy who was still growing up, to suddenly be a dad so soon after being a husband for a month. Really, he did so well, though he won’t listen to me when I say that.

 

I was breast feeding and learning to be a wife and a young mother too but it was easier for me to do that when he was absent from the home - a lot. Actually, thinking back now, it was a good thing that he wasn’t around much because I tend to like being alone anyway. When I’m ill, I dislike visitors. When I’m sad, I go find a solitary place. So when struggling with marriage and mother hood, it was nice to be alone with my baby lots.

 

This subject comes up a lot in our arguments. My question is – when the children were little, he was never around, (a thing that I really didn’t mind that much) but now they have grown up and gone, Mr Blog wants me to be with him every moment I can. I just don’t understand the fact that now, when he’s free to do what ever he wants and take as long as he wants to do it, he doesn’t. Why?

 

For 25 years, we lived that way. Why do I have this man hanging off me now? Even the kids grew up and can walk on their own. What’s going on? I feel like I’ve done my time for murder in the first, and now they won’t let me go because they didn’t want to bother getting to know me back then but now they’ve decided they do. So they lock the door and through away the key again. What did I do? Standing here looking through the bars of my little cell, wondering why I can’t breath and kissing the last fragments of hope good bye.

 

This is totally selfish thinking. Ridiculously self centered. (That’s what goes through my head when I read this)

All of those years I dreamed of being free from the shackles of the weight of responsibility and here we go, now I’m so very needed all over again.

 

Mr Blog bares the same weight. Remember he’s the dad, he’s the reason we own our home, our car, the boys were able to complete University degrees and the reason our beautiful sons exist at all. He has worked incredibly hard and constantly for that long too. He has given his life for us too. As I said, marriage is a 2 way street and he’s getting tired too. I don’t know where the answer to this stuff is found. Probably right here, within each one of us…

Is being jealous a bad thing I know it can be very frustrating and annoying it makes your heart jump around a bit. But as we start to understand and except our partner’s thoughts and dreams we need to believe that it's only that, a dream, thought or fantasy. I have come to understand that Mrs Blogs imagination is like Warner Bros studio always in movie mode. This last six months has been quiet amazing good and bad I have been going through some interesting stuff mentally.

But the other interesting thing is that we have probably talked more this past six months than the previous 25 years. We have openly talked about things that are personal what we think about our relationship the parts where we failed and where we succeeded. Sad thing is when you start to talk about that stuff your amazed at the amount of disappointments and failures that have occurred. Looking back I have been fairly selfish looked after me and only me, work was more important sport was more important family not so important.



The thing is that our two boys (men) have no idea that our marriage sucked for a period. Know why because Mrs Blog kept it together never allowing them to realize that there was a problem even though she started to die inside how beautiful is that. I owe so much to perseverance and long suffering by Mrs Blog she has been an awesome (hate that word) mother but it describes her the best. So why should I be jealous I should be grateful she's still here nothing to be jealous about (I’m still a little jealous and I better not meet him)

~~~~~~~~Mr Blog

I am a hard headed woman, and he’s a soft hearted man (But he as the hardest head too!) He’s a very cuddly smooch person who wants to spend all spare time with his best friend (Mrs Blog) and I am the kind of person who likes to be alone a.m.a.p. He’s a Pisces and I’m a Gemini. Can someone tell me – how does the water combine with the air?

But then again ‘they’ say that opposites attract. The question is ~ can or will we survive?

I have been blogging since October last year and have found it very enjoyable. I have met people that matter to me – some matter a lot. They fill my mind all the time and as strange as that may sound, I consider them my friends. I love them. Male and female – this is where a problem lies. There is a person on the stream who writes in such a way that he causes me to dream such amazing and beautiful dreams. Some times I dream about him ~ if that’s even possible. I’ve never seen him so how could I dream about someone I’ve never seen? A dream is like a movie and made up of pictures, so who am I dreaming about really?

My husband loves me ~ A LOT! He knows about this one person and thinks that in my dreams we have amazingly hot sex, you know the kind that Donuts (Uninspired Thoughts) or the Captain (Living and Dying in 54 Time) write about. I can’t understand why Mr Blog thinks that. That’s just not who I am and to think that, well, I just don’t understand. I dream about a lot of people and a lot of things. I even dream about Mr Blog and they are gentle beautiful dreams.

He’s jealous….

When I was a little girl, I used to dream all the time about all sorts of things. You know, all the Cinderella and Snow White stuff. Heaps of Sleeping Beauty dreams with the handsome knight in his shiny armor riding his amazing, fiery white steed ~ yeah you girls know what I mean. Well, it’s who I am, and who I’ve always been. You married this little girl in a woman’s body and that’s just the way it is Mr Blog. I don’t know what you’re going to do about it except perhaps getting me to have some kind of Lobotomy; but then again you know I’ll never agree to that.

“We each are important and need to be not only willing to drop everything for the other in time of great need, but willing to give them space allowing them to be the individual that we fell in love with”. What a great comment from Mrs Blog but how hard it sometimes is for me to allow that space or privacy. I currently supervise 45 permanent staff with a number of casuals and contractors I have an eight million dollar budget. I work approximately 12 hrs a day 9 days a fortnight and I am on call 24 hrs a day. I gave up fishing and golfing while we were building our house but never took any of those past time activities back up.

I work come home and expect Mrs Blog to spend time with me EVERY DAY bad bad idea or request. So in doing this I am taking away that space that she has earnt and deserves to have, she has been the best mother to our two boys (men) she gave up every thing to be a mum 24/7. We so easily forget the past and the sacrifices that were made and I find it sometimes difficult to allow her to have that time alone.

“Unrealistic expectations are cruel and destroy much of the good we can find naturally in our relationship”. Mrs Blog once said that if he comes home than he must want to be here and I guess if Mrs Blog is still here when I get home than she must want to be here. I don’t know if I can say this but Mrs Blog I LOVE you to bits. ~~~~~~Mr Blog

Dear Mr Blog, its a walk, so lets keep walking ~ Mrs Blog